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But the children were beyond to take any counselling from us, Old Timers. are not ready....Pathetic , is it not?
I know after her death, at the funeral service they all speak wonderful things about her , they recollect what all that she had done for them in spite of her hard life, in spite of her lonely years of strife, they even remember her love and express their gratitude to the dead body in the coffin. Do they want the other people who gathered there recognize their love for the dead body, which they never expressed it when she was alive? Often we do like that, Wisdom comes lately, by that time the opportunities will vanish.
One of my friends, was sharing her grief about the son whom she brought up in good christian way, teaching the values of Christ and almost sacrificed her life for him to see him live for Him. And build a home for himself which could be useful to many more souls. But he disappointed her by marrying an unbeliever and an idol worshipper. There is no Bible in their house, no prayer in the house, no fear of God in the children.
The mother's heart questioning herself, ' Where she did the mistake in bringing up her child?' We know how she feels, there were tears of understanding for her situation in empathetic way.. Yes many of us teach them to love Jesus as their personal friend, we led them to Christ, We prayed for them so much and taught them how to do the will of God, and The beauty and joy in serving Him. But when they are grown up , they point up the mistakes we committed in rearing them up, they make fun of our life all together saying its not worth to live by the standards of life they live their life. The priorities they have chose in life makes the mother's heart to bleed.
Then I know some mothers asking, "Where we committed mistake? why this happens in our lives? Don't we have the pleasure of seeing them to sing for God, praise Him and bring glory to Him by praying and preaching as many other grown up children do? What happened to all those trails,to give them good exemplary life?
One mother told me that she used to farewell her children or her husband when they leave home she imagines as if it would be the last time she would see them on this earth.
What she meant was ,that prayer used to go with them , and in case anything happens to them or to her neither should feel regret if any thing happens. I should be remembered that I did that I could to them. That was her desire.
But lately many parents are undergoing an experience which be could understood, that nothing is in our hands, People call it generation gap.. there is 30 years of gap in between the children and parents, for them the parents are old and wrinkled.out dated, dependent, not so useful much.
The lonely mothers asking me " where are those songs we song in family prayer and on Sunday afternoons as family? Now the grown up chidldren feel shy to sing songs, they are accustomed to listen to songs rather than sing them with all their heart. Where are the quiet times, and first priority to God early mornings? They are over passed by with many works to attend, Is this the life we wanted to happen in the lives our children.
Did we not teach them the Word of God while they walked with us? Did we not sing songs to them while giving bath? Did we not tell the stories of the great heroes of Bible like Joseph, who ran away from sin, and was ready to pushed into the jail to keep purity ?? And did we not teach about Esther who prayed for her people and entered into the court of the king though she might be put to death for doing so?
Did we not explained the things of God and teach them the values of Bible and morals of the society? Where where was the mistake? Did we not pray for them even when they were in our womb? Did we not led them to the Lord enjoyed in the Lord when they were praying and doing the work of God tasting His salvation? and in their trails of life? Did we not cry loudly in the presence of God for the protection of their bodies and souls , not to be touched by the Devil?
We Do not have any answers for these questions. Only Bibleld go, and even when he is old he will not t tells all the answers.
Train a child in the way he should go and even when he is old he will not turn from it Proverbs 22:6
What happened to all those precautions, warnings and exhortations we taught them.
why we cannot see the zeal in them to love God and reach others for God? What is the fault? where it lies? why we sometimes are deprived of such joy in this life? why such things happen in our lives.
If the answer is in Bible, let us turn to the living word of God.
Jesus Christ is our example all ways, His cross has all the answers. umm why He said like this , " who are my brother or mother? THESE , who do the will of God" Definitely HIs mother and brothers were insulted out right , in the front of every one, when they wanted to see Him. This is not the answer they expected from Him, He who was all ways gentle, loving and caring person. They were offended much and left the place.
Then the mother who was sharing her agony with me told me that,
I attended a Bible study group, just after a half hour of this discourse with my friend. The speaker said, ' Why after all we did for our children, and train them how to walk with God, and taught them the fear of God, they are not following Him to our expectations? Well He said, this verse from the Bible Proverbs 22;6
It is ONLY A PRINCIPLE, its NOT A PROMISE.
This is the answer we parents need to go according the values of the Bible, statutes of the Bible, and teach them to generations to generations, we sow the seeds, some fell on thorny bushes, some on side path, some on rocky land, and some on Good fertile ground. JUST because we gave birth to the children we cannot expect 100 fold harvest of our toil. God knows when and how to deal with each one.
We are only the tools to bring them into the world, Its their duty to love HIM or not , we cannot frame the hearts.. wow , this is great revelation.. Leave alone all that stupid stuff of Building up the Families for God. Its not in our hands. IT is the work of Holy spirit. Let Him to the work He is entrusted to Him.
Where are the sons of Samuel, where are the sons of Abraham, where are the sons of Moses, where are the sons of Job, ..Life is in His hands, Family is in His hands, Trust Him, entrust your children to God , remember the mother of James and and John, what she asked for ? a seat beside Jesus Christ in Heaven, what she got? Nothing splendid on this earth.She got her reward in heaven.. Heaven knows what is hidden for our children, Heaven would reveal the reward of our toils... waiting upon the Lord in faith will never go in vain.
